Assertiveness skills training tipsAssertiveness Training - This document outlines a practical approach Saying No. Without actually using the word you can develop the ability to resist or sidestep being manovered into doing something you really don't want to do. | ||
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Changing others by changing yourselfA lot of us wish that the person we are in conflict with, or feel intimidated by, would change. Then everything would be all right. We've all heard this from a colleague, friend, partner and even said it ourselves: 'If only he'd listen to me, then I wouldn't be so frightened.' 'If only she'd stop complaining about my work, I'd be much happier.' 'If only' puts the onus on the other person to change how and who they are and makes them responsible for how we feel. By using some of the tools outlined above, people can get a sense of being in charge of situations, rather than being victims to what other people want. It does seem to be part of human nature to blame others when things go wrong in our lives, or when we're feeling hard done by. If you take away the 'if only' excuse you also take away the need to blame and make the other person wrong. It's also rather wonderful to think that rather than waiting for someone else to change to make things all right, we all have the ability to take charge of most situations and make them all right for ourselves.
What also makes it easier is that we all just have to get better at 'the art of saying no'; none of us has to change our whole personalities to create a more satisfying outcome! Next page why make it easy Home page assertiveness skills tips Read more about assertiveness skills training, development and coaching tips @ Impact Factory Find Impact Factorys next available Open Assertiveness Skills Course For Tailored Assertiveness Skills Training see Assertiveness Skills Training For One-to-One Assertiveness Skills see Executive Coaching If you want some in-depth thoughts about Assertiveness, read the article called Is Assertiveness the Only Way |